HPV and a relationship?
I have recently found out that I have HPV high. I am currently living with my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years. I felt I had a beautiful life with him and tranquility. I was thinking of a future with him and possible children with him too. However, since this whole HPV thing I have been distant from him, depressed and crying during my times alone in the house thinking I am going to die. My pap smear is normal but my HPV test showed I have a high HPV. I go through moments where I am fine and next I am crying because I am scared I will lose my life to this virus. I have been taking Vitamin B- Complex and Folic Acid to help my immune system. I am frightened as if I have Cervical Caner. Probably because I lost my father to prostate cancer is probably why I am even more terrified. I am having problems dealing with this.
September 17th, 2010 - 15:22
Hi Niki…I too have HPV, and I am engaged to the man (who I think) passed it to me.
First off–Mine was low grade, I had to get a biopsy and then get the cells frozen off my cervix, I go back in 2 months to see if the pre-cancer cells are still there, hopefully they are not. I thought HOLY SH** I HAVE CANCER AND I AM GOING TO DIE!!! But I am not going to die from this, IF I TREAT IT, and that’s what I am doing.
But for you being high, there are still MANY treatments, there is a LEEP, Cryo, and others, I promise you will not die from HPV. Let your gyno run all the necesarry tests they need and they will help you!!
Next–I was depressed too, crying, wanting to be alone, thinking I was a freak! I did my research and found 1 in 4 women have this, so see we are NOT alone! Let your b/f in to help you…I pushed mine away b/c as far as I knew he gave it to me! I was angry and wanted to break up with him, but there is NO WAY a man would know they are carrying it, so please be patient with him. Eveything will work out!!
My b/f and I went through a rough patch like you are now, but it will pass I PROMISE!! Now we are engaged!! So I am very happy. Please do everything you can to help out this HPV and it will work out!!
GOOD LUCK
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September 17th, 2010 - 15:22
chill chill chill…. your doctor should have let you know you arent going to die or anywhere close to it… you have to go through so many years of untreated bad papsmears to get cancer (it takes years and years)…. you do know however this is sexually transmitted. it will not affect him… also dont blame this on him it could be from years ago with another partner… ease your mind and do some online research ….. YOU ARE GOING TO BE FINE, THIS VIRUS CORRECTS ITSELF….unless you have HIV or AIDS you dont need to worry…
September 17th, 2010 - 15:22
If I were you, I’d probably go talk to a doctor and especially a therapist who specializes in dealing with these type of issues. I would also use the Internet to find more information about what I could do to learn to cope with it. I would even go as far as to look for others online who already have HPV and see what kinda strategies they use to cope with it as well.
Good luck.
September 17th, 2010 - 15:22
I understand the pain and loneliness you are feeling due to learning about this. The best advise I can offer is to just try and relax, many people in the world have these types of illnesses and you are not alone. It is unlikely you will lose your life to this virus, or that you have cervical cancer, but I commend the fact that you are interested in learning more about it and doing everything you can to combat the possibility. It is much more likely that you would survive if you did happen to have cervical cancer due to this.
HPV simply increases the risk for cervical cancer, it does not imply you have it and there are many instances were individuals do not have any occurrence of cervical cancer while having HPV. I think you are simply over reacting emotionally to this problem, and I hope you can find the strength to overcome this, being depressed and sad only weakens your body, if you try to keep an optimistic outlook it will be better for you overall. I have had scares of diseases like this before, and I can say that the best attitude to keep is one of optimism, your life is not over and once you realize that you have a lot to live for you will only be happier because of it. Overcoming this problem will give you renewed confidence and strength and hopefully you can offer similar advice to others after you have gone through this.